You Do You :)

 

Hey guys,

It's November and we're all still in the middle of a Pandemic and unfortunately, I just have this feeling that Ms. Rona won't be going away anytime soon. Or I should rephrase it "Any-year" soon. Nevertheless, we will still have to continue our lives with new norms. Like me, I am currently in the third week of the third semester, and God, I miss going to a physical class. The online class is just draining on another level. 

However, since I am in a mood to write tons of nonsense things, my mind finally came up with a big topic that always bothers my mind. Have you guys ever be in a position where everyone just doesn't understand you? Or maybe they react to your sadness in a way that makes you feel that you are actually lonely and has no one to rely on every time you need a hand to guide you or a couple of ears to lend? That is what I feel every single time I go through a breakdown. Some days, you might just feel sadder, or more insecure than the other and that is when you need someone to hear your inner thoughts, your darkest bunch of secrets and when they react the way that makes you feel less worthy or making you guys feel stupid for having such thoughts or mindset, it makes you crushed. & I just need you to know that you're not stupid. You are worthy and you are right to voice out every thought that bothers your peaceful mind. On the other hand, if you are in a position where people came in to lend your shoulders for their sorrow, listen to them. Do not go around telling them that they should not feel that way or they are just wasting their time thinking about it the way they do. That is just not right. They won't be telling you all of those ugly, dark thoughts if they didn't figure it out. They did. They know they shouldn't. But who are we to judge them for how cruel the world treats them? 

Let me put it like this: Having sad/insecure thoughts or breakdowns are just as bad as your other secrets that you don't want people to find out. Let us just replace the insecurities/ sadness with the simplest secret we all keep; picking our noses so you guys can understand the concept better. When we picked our nose, we won't be telling people 'Hey! I just picked my nose in the toilet and I found a very big insect in it (jk)'. But IF you might have a problem with it; as in maybe the insect is too big that it makes you hard to breathe, but you can't get it out your nose-- you need assistant, you need help and you WILL have to tell someone about it. Maybe the doctor, because obviously, we trust them with medical issues way better than anyone.

This is the case when we have problems that we want to get rid of in our lives. That's why, when someone comes to you to let their burden or sadness out, you need to attend to them positively because they TRUST you with their problems. They want you to be a part of their journey to be a better version of themselves. You shouldn't act like they are over-reacting or anything like it, because they aren't. Help them. Help your family, your friends, and your partner to be happy. Don't abandon their need for love and reassurance. I think that is all I need to say. Have a good day everyone. xx

Love, FH.